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The Joy Thief – An Important Lesson for High Performance Leaders

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You want to be relaxed, confident and happy at home and at work, right?

Happy, healthy workplace cultures are challenging to find and take work to create.

Take a couple of minutes to read and contemplate on this life and emotional intelligence hack.

I’ll start with a story.

One spring morning while I was out riding my bike I noticed what a fabulous morning it was. Beautiful.
All the fields I rode past were lush green and the road was a beautiful ribbon. I thought to myself “This is really a beautiful moment. I am having fun!”

Then it happened.
I got scared.
I thought, “What if a car hits me?
What if I get hit in the head with a rock?”
Fear struck.
I wanted to get off the highway. I became flooded with thoughts of my demise.

This time I noticed.

This time I didn’t let fear steal my joy.

This is not an unfamiliar conversation I’ve had in my head. I feel joy and then I feel fear. What is going on?

This is really counterintuitive thought and took me months to wrap my head around. This time I noticed it and stopped the thinking process.

I’m not alone in this. Can you relate?

Joy is one of the most vulnerable emotions we feel…. so, we “dress rehearse tragedy” #BreneBrown to try to prepare for it. The trouble with that is that we give up being in the moment. We trade joy for fear.

Fear is sometimes helpful. It can keep us safe.

However, fear also keeps us from enjoying the things that bring joy.

Think about it….
You’re at work and you feel the exhilaration of being productive, motivated and effective. Then a co-worker asks you a hard question. Instead of seeing the question through the lens of joy, you experience the question as a threat. You move into fear and become defensive. Instead of having an opportunity to connect, fear can initiate disengagement, acting out, separation and blame.
And this undermines your joy and your effectiveness.

Appearing cool, rather than expressing the fullness of joy is another way that we disengage. We’re more concerned with what others think than experiencing the fullness of the moment. Fear robs us of joy.

When this happens, we’re no longer mindful and in the moment, we are living in the future, a future we don’t know exists…. and that can spark anxiety.

Staying present is so important to effective leadership. And most of us don’t have a clue that we’re jumping into the future when this happens.

Joy is essential for our resilience.

When do you experience joy?
When have you dress rehearsed tragedy?

The alternative is to stay in the moment, to embrace the joy, as beautiful and as vulnerable as it is.
Check out the upcoming workshop on February 6 to learn more.
https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/a-counter-intuitive-exploration-of-joy-an-emotional-intelligence-workshop-tickets-53892125799

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Celebrate National Small Business Week October 16-20, 2023!

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From Community Futures Central Alberta

National Small Business Week is an annual celebration of entrepreneurship that has been celebrated for over 40 years.

Did you know:

  • Canada has over 1 million small businesses currently in operation!
  • For statistical purposes, a small business has between 1-99 employees, but most have less than 10.
  • These small businesses employ over 8 million Canadians.
  • By comparison, only 2.5 million Canadians are employed in medium sized businesses (100-500 employees).
  • In 2019, Canadian small businesses contributed 36.7% of our gross domestic product (GDP).

*Statistics taken from Statistics Canada – Innovation, Science and Economic Development website.

Time is running out to apply for the
Catalyst Incubator!

Calling local entrepreneurs! The Catalyst Incubator, funded through the Central Alberta Innovation Network (CARIN) and provided by Community Futures Central Alberta, is nearing its registration deadline.

Both Fall and Winter registration dates for this unique, cohort-based program helping to foster new ideas, make critical connections, and help start-up businesses are now open. The Catalyst Incubator is 100% FREE and focuses on supporting start-ups in manufacturing, agriculture, technology, energy innovation, and more.

Learn more about how to register

Increase your business’ online presence with free help from the Digital Service Squad

The Digital Service Squad (DSS) is designed to help small businesses take their businesses online. This program, a partnership between Business Link, Community Futures and Digital Main Street, will help small businesses in Alberta undergo digital transformations and adopt eCommerce practices. DSS is open to home-based or commercial small businesses registered in Alberta with less than 50 employees.

Digital Service Squads guides businesses through digital transformation. Small businesses can apply to participate in the program, free of charge.

Book your free consultation today

Lending Spotlight: Flex Loans

In this edition of our Quarterly Update, we shine a spotlight on the Community Futures Central Alberta Flex Loan. Flex Loans are available to clients in all industries, including home-based and storefront. The loans can be used for equipment, inventory, renovations, marketing, working capital, etc.

According to CFCA Business Analyst Kelsey Krieger, “Flex loans offer our clients a lower interest rate and a lower barrier to entry to qualify for financial support for their small business or startup. This product allows clients to make near-term plans for purchasing needed equipment or doing important upgrades to their business.”

•    Qualification for unsecured (will still take GSA and personal guarantee) will be based on credit history and net worth.

Learn more about Flex Loans today – call us at 403.342.2055 and make an appointment!

CFCA introduces Tyler Harke as its new Community Economic Development Coordinator

Community Futures Central Alberta is pleased to welcome Tyler Harke as its newest staff member.

Tyler is a life-long Albertan who comes from a family of entrepreneurs. He is excited to serve in both the Community Economic Development role as well as part of the Digital Services Squad.

Tyler brings over 15 years of experience in marketing and communications roles and looks forward to playing a key role in helping small business thrive in this great region!

Contact Tyler and discuss your community’s involvement with CFCA

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CFR Rodeo, live music, street dancing, art, theatre and more downtown celebrations..

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Live Music at The Velvet Olive

Mike Szabo at The Velvet Olive

October 26th @7:30

Join Mike Szabo on a journey of stories and songs he wrote and the covers that inspired him. Mike is promoting the release of his debut vinyl LP, Take My Heart 2020. Cover for the show is by donation and guests will be seated first come, first served.

Fish in a Birdcage at The Velvet Olive

October 28th @8:30

Dustan Townsend AKA “Fish in a Birdcage” is a young and passionate musical virtuoso. Townsend is originally from Red Deer, Alberta and is now on a two year long busking/street performing adventure around Europe with Spain being his next destination.

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Family Street Dance October 29th

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Grand Opening Celebration

October 29th

Yep, you heard that right! We’re hosting a Grand Opening celebration for Red Deer’s largest music store! When Long and McQuade bought the business in February of 2020, plans to renovate the store were made but had to be postponed. Fast forward to 2022, renovations are now finished and we would like to take this opportunity to celebrate the occasion with YOU, our amazing customers!

Come to the store on Oct. 29 for some awesome giveaway prizes, live music, and free food. Our BBQ will be fired up from 12 to 2 and we have live music scheduled from some excellent local musicians!

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Trick or Treat Downtown Red Deer

October 31st

Trick or Treat October 31st-

12-4 pm

Trick or Treat with your little one at your favorite businesses and stop by the Ross Street Pation for a photobooth!

Contact Carbon + Oak for location information.

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Rodeo on Ross

November 2nd, 3rd ,4th

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Celebration 6 Years Arts & Culture

November 4th

A + Art Gallery & unique collections

Celebration 6 Years Exhibition

Details:

Opening Reception

Date: Friday, November 4th

Time: Noon to 4 pm

FREE Event

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The Games of Love and Chance

November 10th to 27th

Prime stock Theater

@ Scott block theatre

November 10th to 27th.

Thursdays – Sundays 7 pm

PLUS 2 pm Matinees on Saturdays

Love must conquer clever disguises in this delightful comic masterpiece.

The Games of Love and Chance was originally written by Pierre de Marivaux at the height of opulence and extravagance during the reign of Louis XV in France. This playful and witty comedy has been newly translated and adapted by Artistic Director, Richard Beaune and this is it’s world premiere! Indulge in an evening (or afternoon) of love, laughter and decadent silliness as Red Deer’s only professional theatre company brings this sumptuous story of love and deception to life on stage.

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Starpainter w/ Curtis Phagoo at The Velvet Olive

The Velvet olive

Starpainter is a folk rock band from Lethbridge, Alberta. They wear their influences on their sleeves, showcasing strong songwriting and an affinity for gently psychedelic alt-country tones. The band has been growing a following on the strength of their debut full-length titled Bury Me By My Family (2020). Their imaginative, guitar-heavy live show is built on a foundation of prairie-born craftsmanship with a pop sensibility that defies their youth.

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Follow along with our NEW mural map, to enjoy the amazing murals that Downtown Red Deer has to offer!

Looking for a paper copy? Head to the Downtown Business Association office.

120, 5009 50 Ave.

 

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