Why We Remember

Mark Meincke

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Why we remember

To remember not only the fallen, but the sacrifices made by the living who have experienced horrors which are simply beyond the comprehension of the unindoctrinated.

To acknowledge the sacrifice made by the families of the fallen, and of all those who have served and who are still serving.

Because nobody ever truly comes home from war. Only a version of yourself returns. A haunted version, whose very soul has been irreversibly stained by the realization that Satan is in fact real, and he does indeed cajole decent people into doing awful things.

It’s the understanding of how unspeakably horrible one person can be to another. War forever taints you. Witnessing a flagrant disregard for the sanctity of life is not something you can unsee. It is this stain which affects every aspect of your civilian life, often for the rest of your life.

We remember our soldiers because they bear a terrible burden, so that others will never have to carry the painful weight of freedom.

To acknowledge the privilege we enjoy, of living in a peaceful country where our children can safely walk to school without the fear of their school being bombed.

We remember, because we acknowledge that we can’t ever fully appreciate the sacrifices, so we remember in lieu of understanding.

We remember, because it’s the best we can do, and the least we should do to honor our soldiers, sailors, and airmen both past and present.

We remember, because they likely know the unforgettable stench of burning human flesh, and the sound of the screams of the burning.

We remember them, because they can not forget.

We remember, because the survivors often struggle from debilitating depression, relentless nightmares, and uncontrollable anger.

We remember because veterans are at a much higher risk of suicide.

We remember them, because many of them can never find peace.

We remember them, because we don’t carry the burden of becoming them.

On November the 11th, we will remove our hats, stand for our two minutes of silence, and we will remember them.

Mark E. Meincke
Veteran
Host of: Operation Tango Romeo, the trauma recovery podcast

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The benefits of returning to Canada, where his NHL career started, and taking part in the ‘Battle of Alberta’ with the provincial-rival Edmonton Oilers were benefits to signing with the Flames, but what ultimately led him to sign was how close he feels the team is to winning a Stanley Cup.

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The 31-year-old Kadri had 87 points (28 goals, 59 assists) in 71 games for the Avalanche in 2021-22. He added 15 points in 16 playoff games, including the overtime winner in Game 4 of the Stanley Cup final against Tampa Bay.

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What looked like a potential nightmare for Calgary started to turn around when the Flames dealt Tkachuk to Florida for a package that included forward Jonathan Huberdeau, who had 115 points last season, and defenceman Mackenzie Weegar.

The Flames then locked up Huberdeau long-term with an eight-year, $84-million contract extension.

“It’s alarming to anybody when you lose players of that magnitude,” Kadri said. “But I think Brad (Flames GM Brad Treliving) has done a great job getting some return and valuable players.”

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This report by The Canadian Press was first published Aug. 18, 2022.

Bill Graveland, The Canadian Press