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23andMe; The True Meaning of Family

I had seen ads many times on my Facebook feed from 23andme, and I have wanted to do it for a long time. The kits offer ancestry breakdown and personalized health insights which have always intrigued me. After all, from the depths of my core, I believe nothing is more important than family.
My desire to know more might be hard for someone to understand, looking from the outside. My god, some people on the inside don’t understand either. They might ask, “How can someone who professes to love her family be estranged from so many of her family members?” From my perspective, I lost my dad, my mother, my sister, and my brother due to alcoholism even though some of them are still alive.
My mom and dad married just before I was born in 1968. After having my brother and my sister, they divorced when I was eight or nine, due to my father’s problem with alcohol. My brother, Brett, my greatest friend, became another alcoholic branch on our family tree and lost his long courageous battle with addiction and mental illness when he was 39.
I had a relationship with my parents and sister until well into my thirties. Not a perfect one, as relationships within the walls of families can be challenging, but a life that included them. I loved them all very much. Even so, our immediate family unit dissolved under the stresses of my brother’s addiction as well as many unhealthy family patterns and blame-shifting. It all became too much.
My brother alone is responsible for his alcoholism; our reaction to it was never his responsibility. For many reasons, including my wellbeing and that of my husband and my two young sons, I made the painful decision to love my father, mother, and sister from afar. I ceased all contact more than ten years ago.
Through years of therapy, I worked extremely hard to be healthy and happy. I had spent too many decades making poor decisions and looking after other people. Finally, I found the courage to look after the needs of my own family first—my husband and sons. And I am most proud to say that I finally looked after myself; I responded to my own needs. That wasn’t and isn’t selfish. For my own mental health it was necessary.
I have always known my dad’s side of the family came from England, as we are all very close, but my excitement and hope in ordering the 23andme kits was to learn a little more about my mother’s side of the family. Growing up I only ever met my mom’s parents, her sister, and that sister’s children, my two cousins. I never met, nor did my mother ever mention, any of her aunts, uncles, cousins, or even grandparents.
My husband of 30 years, Jim, agreed that it would be amazing to learn more about where our families originated. He knows his family came from England too, whereas I was excited with the possibility of knowing where my mother’s parents came from. I had been close to them, as were my brother and sister, but we lost our grandparents when we were still young. My nana died from dementia complications when I was only 18, and my papa died when I was around 25 or 26. I feel blessed that Papa got to meet and spend time with his two great-grandchildren, Rick and Ryan, before he passed away.
Last November my husband and I opened our kits, filled the little tubes with saliva, and sent them off in the mail. I waited. And waited. And waited some more. I was so eager to get the results, like a kid waiting patiently to open a Christmas present, and I was disappointed when they didn’t update the information on my online portal as quickly as they had originally promised. Finally, the results arrived on January 15, 2022. I was a little sad as the data seemed a little vague. It confirmed that my relatives came from England, yet there wasn’t much other information. I was looking to know more about my nana and papa, maybe something more exotic, but I suppose that is where their families originated too.
So, after looking it over and analyzing my health data I logged out of my 23andme portal and I doubt I ever would have thought more about it or logged in again.
I was at work just a few weeks later, on February 7, when my phone beeped with an email that had a 23andme logo: “Hey Jodee, My name’s James Dodds and 23andme says that we may be half siblings. My dad, Jim Dodds, was from Ponoka so I am wondering if that’s the connection.”
I was completely calm as I read and responded within ten minutes to this unexpected news. I know everyone is different, but for me I have experienced firsthand how my body and mind reacts when being in shock. After all, I remember clearly when two police officers came to my front door in the middle of the night to tell me my brother had taken his own life. When I shared it with my husband that evening and with my two adult sons, now 29 and 31, they didn’t quite comprehend what it could mean. I knew instantly, not because I could have ever imagined such a thing or that there was a hint of some deep dark family secret, because there wasn’t. I live now, as I did as a young child with my parents, very close to Ponoka, Alberta. This wasn’t someone emailing me from halfway across the world, this was 20 minutes away. DNA doesn’t lie.
The initial shock had worn off by that evening. Random visions started going through my mind, causing floods of tears. My fully clothed dad saving me from drowning when I walked off the edge of a pier during a summer vacation when I was probably five years old. My grandma’s face—it sits in a beautiful frame in my office. Big Tisdale Christmas get-togethers with everyone from my dad’s side of the family at my house. My earliest memory of looking inside eggs with a red light with my grandfather when I was three or four. Being the oldest grandchild. Memories and tears. More memories and tears. And finally, my dad’s siblings—Uncle Les, Auntie Myrna, and Auntie Mary—all of whom have stood by me and supported me through my life’s journey. Never, not once, judging or condemning me or taking sides when it came to my complicated relationship with my father. They have loved me unconditionally, while loving their brother too. I LOVE my family.
Along with the tears came the overwhelming sense of disbelief and pain. My heart has been shattered.
My whole life flashed before my eyes. I knew my mother was pregnant when she got married to my father and since the whole marriage wasn’t blissful, we never talked about any other details after they divorced. As I tried to unwrap all my feelings, not knowing whether my mother lied or took her best guess and married my dad, I had no feeling of rage when I texted her: “I would like to know please your connection (and/or relationship with a Jim Dodds). I don’t need a long story. I don’t need contact with you. Just a simple one or two sentence answer. I would appreciate if you could get back to me within a day as this is time sensitive. Thank you.”
I am aware that this would come to her as much of a shock after 53 years as it did to me. But our estrangement complicated matters and her shock isn’t my responsibility. So, once again, I waited. And waited. And waited some more. It seemed like days, but in fact it was the next morning when I received a reply from my mother: “The only Jim Dodds I ever knew, I dated someone with that name when I was 18.”
I was already sure it was true. He is my biological father.
I don’t think anyone would ever blame me if my initial reaction would be hating my mother. You don’t have to be estranged for that. I think to myself even in the closest of families, this surprise revelation could ruin a mother and daughter relationship and cause tremendous upset. I am as imperfect as anyone, but I never react based on hate or anger. I am not even capable of feeling those emotions.
Life is full of twists, turns, losses, happiness, and hardships. I have lived through my fair share of pain, and this is no different. Pain is not a contest. We all experience it, and there are many different reactions. Sadly, often it is human nature when something bad or traumatic happens to be furious or to want to hold someone else responsible. We blame ourselves, we blame others, sometimes people blame god, but following those emotions will only keep us angry, unhealthy, and stuck in the same place. Instead, I always have a deep-seated hope for everyone, regardless of circumstance, to find the strength to follow empathy, compassion, understanding and love because that path leads to peace. Being all of those things never means that you have to accept relationships that are not good for your own health, happiness, and spirit but I never make important life’s decisions based on toxic emotions.
And so, in following with my head and also my heart, I met with my mother, the first time I have seen her face in nine years.
I don’t know the future of the relationship between me and my mom or if there will even be one. Before our visit, a lot of damage had been done that I am unsure can be reversed but I am putting all of that aside for today. As I share this revelation, I stand beside my mother as I believe her when she says there was no ill intent. She had been dating a bull rider, Jim Dodds, and loved him. But she was so young and had already experienced trauma of her own and had a past with my father. They had a daughter together four years before I was born, in 1964, who was given up for adoption. That connection was why my mom started seeing my dad again. And when she got pregnant at 19, she broke things off with Jim, and told him she was getting married without ever mentioning her pregnancy. With her whole heart she believed my dad was my biological father.
I have cried a million tears the last couple weeks, had many sleepless nights, and swam hundreds of lengths at the pool downtown in Sylvan Lake to calm my mind. And what I realized is that family is so much more than being related by blood. It is about being there for each other, through the good times, and especially the bad. It is the relationships in our lives that provide a sense of security and belonging. It is people that hold your heart gently in their hands. It is about feeling you are in a safe space, never worried someone won’t love you, no matter what you share. Family is about feeling valued, respected, and understood. It is about bumps in the road yet creating memories that are built on pure, unconditional love. Family is being able to say you are sorry when someone says you hurt them.
I am incredibly blessed to have so many relationships in my life that provide all these things and more, many of whom are friends that I wholeheartedly consider my family. We live in a beautiful world, where children continue to be adopted, people get divorced and then remarried with blended families, foster parents, surrogacy, and IVF sometimes with anonymous donors. Even same sex couples are fulfilling their dreams of becoming parents. There are many scenarios, and all of those people are no less loved, no less connected and no less family than those that share DNA. I always knew this; it just took a few days to catch my breath.
As much as my dad and I had our own challenges throughout the course of our lives, I loved him very much. This is not a win for me. I never, not once, wished for or longed for a different father. He passed away in February 2018. As much as our own conflicts and estrangement, I think this would have broken his heart.
I am still continuing to process, and my biggest source of pain and disbelief right now, is that my biological father Jim passed away on February 18, 2021, just over a year ago from cancer. He will never know that I was born. We will never get the opportunity to meet and he will never know his amazing grandsons.
There is no regret from me or desire to change the course of any of our lives, because, had my mom, my dad, or Jim Dodds known, the alternative would be worse than what we are all faced to accept today. Any other decision would change the course of so many different lives. Others quite likely would never have been born, such as my newly discovered half-siblings Jaime, James, and Jade as well as the brother I lost ten years ago. So as hard as it is to work through all of my emotions, things worked out as they should.
For me, I would never want to alter the course of fate. I love my family and was always meant to be the sister of Brett Tisdale
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How to Use Bonuses at Magius Casino and Similar Websites

Players at online casinos in Canada can get bonuses on games to extend gameplay and get more chances to win. These promotions at Magius casino and similar sites offer more money, free spins, free bets, or other benefits. But how to use them properly?
This short guide explains what users should understand about bonuses on sites like Magius casino. You’ll learn about conditions, rules, and tips on how to properly use casino gifts.
Types of Bonuses at Online Casinos
Sites like Magius casino have different types of promotions. The range depends on the casino’s ability to pay more money to players. Here’s a list of the most common promotions that you’ll find online:
● Welcome bonus. It’s a simple way to increase your starting deposit with additional funds. You can use the money on certain games with certain terms and conditions.
● Reload promotions. You can activate reload deals on certain days or during holidays/special events. These promotions work like the welcome bonus, but typically lower percentages. Most reloads have time-limited access.
● Free spins. They’re part of bigger promotions or you can win/exchange them for points from loyalty programs. They’re usually for listed slot machines.
● Free bets on games or sports. These are available for games or sports. Some casinos also accept bets on sports, so users should read on what offers they receive these bets.
● Cashback. Typically, it’s a weekly return of a part of your lost money. You get a fixed percentage back from net losses in certain games (slots, most of the time).
● Promo codes. Each code unlocks a different type of promotion like spins, money, reloads, other gifts.
There are many other rewards at online sites like Magius casino. You can also participate in loyalty or VIP programs, win giveaway prizes, and so on. All these gifts have requirements and conditions that you must complete.
Factors to Consider Before Claiming Promotions
Online sites like Magius casino usually attach several conditions to each bonus. Here’s what to consider before you claim any casino promotion:
● Most promotions require you to bet the money a certain number of times (x20, x30, x50, etc.) before cashout.
● Each promotion expires, so if you don’t complete the requirement on time, you lose the gift.
● Many promotions work only on selected slots or games.
● Some bonuses limit how much you can win, even if you win more.
● Most gifts activate only after a payment, which is a deposit minimum, so check the amount.
Always read the full promotion rules. You won’t waste time and money when you know what to expect.
Tips to Use Bonuses Properly
You must use casino promotions if you want to get real benefits. Here’s a list of a few tips:
● Read the promo rules before you accept.
● Choose promotions with a low wagering requirement. It’s easier to complete the requirement faster.
● Use a calendar or reminder because promotions expire quickly.
You must also use the bonus only on games that count for the wagering progress. Check the list of titles or types of games beforehand.
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The Debate Over No-KYC Gambling Platforms

Both users and regulators find the rise of no-KYC casinos quite interesting, largely because these sites remove the need for identity checks entirely. By using cryptocurrency, they bypass procedures that traditional operators must follow.
While this model attracts players who value privacy and speed, concerns over security and compliance continue to grow. So, on one hand, you have PokerScout’s insights that offer a current snapshot of no-KYC casinos worth trying. On the other hand, there are growing demands from regulators who argue that anonymity creates space for fraud, abuse, and unchecked financial activity.
As the model spreads, regulators, operators, and players now face a critical question: how much access should come without oversight?
Why No-KYC Casinos Exist
No-KYC casinos operate without requiring users to submit personal documents. This means identity checks are skipped entirely. At the same time, most of these casinos rely on cryptocurrency, which allows for instant transfers without banking intermediaries. So, looking from the customer’s point of view, the model removes the barriers that often discourage players from joining traditional platforms in the first place. By cutting verification steps, these sites shorten the time between deposit and gameplay to just a few clicks.
What draws users to these casinos varies by region. In markets where online gambling is restricted, access without an ID becomes a workaround. In others, the attraction lies in speed and discretion, especially for those wary of sharing financial data. Also, many of these platforms run offshore, meaning often outside the reach of regulators. While the distance offers flexibility, it also means these sites operate beyond the safeguards that licensed casinos must observe.
Privacy Versus Accountability
Discretion is the main promise offered by No-KYC platforms. Yet, this model also raises unresolved questions about responsibility and oversight. Still, in countries where surveillance feels invasive, many users seek privacy as a form of protection. Some want to avoid handing over sensitive documents to offshore sites they may not fully trust. Others simply prefer to keep gambling activity separate from their financial identity.
Nonetheless, the risks cannot be ignored. Without checks, underage access, fraud, and financial abuse become harder to prevent. As the Forbes article on betting compliance and security notes, KYC protocols are central to anti-money laundering frameworks that protect both platforms and players. This debate now forces the industry to confront a hard question: how much anonymity should any platform allow before trust begins to collapse?
The Player’s Trade-Off
The question above becomes real the moment a player runs into trouble. Namely, no-KYC platforms promise and deliver speed. Accounts open in seconds, play begins instantly, and withdrawals often arrive within minutes. There are no forms, no approvals, and no delays. For users who value autonomy, that can feel like a feature, not a flaw. But, the speed has a cost.
In case of a problem, like an account getting locked, there’s rarely a clear way to resolve the matter. This is because most no-KYC casinos don’t offer formal dispute channels or licensed arbitration. They rely on blockchain to guarantee flawless operation, so support is often reduced to minimum. In essence, if something goes wrong, you don’t have a system to rely on.
Regulatory Response and Market Impact
Concerns over player safety and financial crime have drawn attention from regulators in multiple regions. In the EU and the United States, enforcement bodies have increased scrutiny of offshore operators. Some have already blocked access to these platforms, citing a lack of compliance with anti-money laundering standards. Others have pushed for tighter rules that would cover anonymous play under broader financial laws.
In response, the operators have begun offering tiered systems – optional KYC for higher limits, geoblocking for restricted countries, and partial transparency through smart contracts. Still, platforms that resist verification face practical hurdles. Payment processors may decline service, and affiliates may walk away to avoid reputational risk. As a recent paper on the role of blockchain in AML compliance suggests, the blockchain tools could support AML goals without full identity disclosure, but adoption remains uneven. So, for now, the regulatory picture remains fractured and fluid.
Can Trust Exist Without Identity?
While regulation remains uneven, some no-KYC casinos try to prove they can be trusted. They open their code, publish audits, and use smart contracts to lock transactions. Still, reputation comes from usage, not paperwork. So players are now investigating, scanning on-chain histories and reviewing in public forums.
This system rewards transparency, not credential, which is a great feature. But, a deeper question lingers: can a platform stay legitimate if trust depends entirely on opinions of strangers? We’ll have to wait and see.
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